She married at l8yrs.and had a daughter Elaine, but war threatened and her skies darkened as they did for all. When her husband died suddenly, she decided to join her two sisters who had married American soldiers during the war and who had settled in Los Angeles, California. She married again and enjoyed her new life in the city living on the Westside. She is an excellent cook, a gifted homemaker who could make hats and her own dresses and appreciated her California lifestyle to the fullest.
After her last husband passed away, she was stricken by a bout of diverticulosis. She managed to keep her health until it struck again suddenly at age 83 and she was rushed to Santa Monica hospital. As she was being prepped for the colostomy, her colon ‘burst’ and an immediate operation was imperative to save her life. She was blessed with an excellent surgeon who performed two operations, flushing out her body cavity and performing all necessary procedures.
She stayed in a comma for over l0 days and it was ‘touch and go’ for that period. She lost 40lbs. She was transferred to a nearby nursing home for some weeks and then allowed to return home where Elaine moved in for a few months to help her adjust. It took about a year for her to feel strong enough to begin to live as normal a life as one can under the new circumstances. She had been blessed with a wonderful ET nurse, but she retired and was missed.
Frances and Elaine thrashed about attempting to find data and information as to where to purchase what was needed to deal with the colostomy, but little was forthcoming until we somehow stumbled upon the Long Beach chapter of the Ostomy Association. And while this chapter proved to be located too far for the freeway-phobic ladies, the people there were kind and helpful and suggested that she get in touch with the head U.O.A. organization and begin to receive their wonderfully informative PHOENIX magazine!
One of the advertisements suggested that she try’ Colomagic -liners’ for pouches which proved to be a godsend for a very fastidious lady, so she ordered that product from a gentleman in Canada before he retired and ‘sold’ the distribution business to Edgepark the company from whom Frances receives her supplies.. She then learned that a West Los Angeles chapter was to be reinstated. She joined that chapter and is extremely grateful for all its informative and enlightening programs.
While Frances is sometimes a little ‘fragile’ in her health, on the whole, as she now approaches her 5th year of being an ostomate, she is deeply appreciative of all the help given to her through the U.O.A. and O.A.L.A. without which she would be (almost) lost as she is determined to not only survive, but also to thrive! (ed. Note: Frances recently went through a gallstone attack and surgery to removal the gallstone. She is recovering well as you can see from Elaine’s email.)
Dear gentle folks and friends – As I may have mentioned to some of you, my lovely mother had been in declining health for the last month and since my life revolves around her – and animal rights -and art and film – but that’s another story – my own life was hugely upset and distracted I could do little else but be concerned and could not attend my marvelous BAFTA screenings and some important animal gatherings.
Her symptoms – and let this be a lesson for us all – was intense internal itching, shortness of breath, loss of appetite and weight, chills and finally jaundice. After 3 visits to her caring and efficient doctor and some office tests, her doctor ordered her into the ER of Santa Monica Hospital Monday and after another day of tests and staying overnight, she endured an operation to rid her liver/bile duct of an obstruction (gallstone). This took place on her 87th birthday (instead of attending a lovely Beverly Hills lunch which had been planned weeks ago)! Somehow she survived and felt much better. Her complexion became its usual pink and white and she is now ‘resting comfortably’. She must now get stronger and add weight to her l06 lbs.
May I strongly suggest that you must all eat your FIBER and seriously think about becoming a vegetarian! My mother is a fabulous cook and enjoyed all manner of delicious meals and in the days when she was growing up it was the social habit to cuts off the crusts of ones bread and the skins of fruits and veggies. Of course, this is not the whole picture, but it is important for your body to get its fiber. And while there is so much more to this story, I wanted you to know some recent goings on in my little life.
I cannot conceive of life without my beautiful and stalwart mother…..so take care of your loved ones and tell them to eat their fruits and veggies! LUV, Elaine